Self-Love & Self-Care

As a relatively ‘new’ grandmother, who gets to spend a lot of time with her beautiful grandchild, I’ve found myself in a quandary recently as I search for things to feed her.

In my parenting days, as I found myself rushed for time, I still cooked, but I found the quickest and easiest ways to do things.  That meant using a lot of pre-packaged and processed foods, sometimes doing the fast food thing – anything to save me time and energy and, of course, money.

As I’ve lived out my life in this manner, my body has suffered.  I never really looked at labels, never really cared what was IN the food I was eating – I just needed something, and I always thought I was doing the right thing by providing tasty dishes for me and my family.

Now, finding myself in this position of feeding and providing nutrition for a brand-new being, I’m completely questioning my past food choices, and everything in my environment.  My own health journey has illuminated some of the unhealthy choices I’ve made in my life, and I’m a little more conscious about things.  Though I don’t always have the time, money or the energy to search out and eat the best foods out there, I am trying.

I woke up this morning with three words running around in my head – so simple, so multi-faceted, so all-encompassing.  The words – ‘what’s in that?’ – running around, taking into consideration not just food, but expanding into every and all aspects of humanity.

How could something so simple be so life-changing?  Because when I ask that one question, in every situation, under every circumstance, my life becomes different.

I start with the food I’m thinking of purchasing.  And I ask – what’s in that?  I remember a chiropractor telling me (at least 15 years ago) to eat ‘nothing packaged, nothing processed.’  People assume that this means shopping in the outer aisles of the store.  This is a misnomer, as if you scan in your own mind your local grocery store, you will find packaged and processed items in EVERY part of the store.

My granddaughter started off her solid foods with organic cereal, then organic glass-jarred baby food, but now that she is old enough for solids, I’m finding all sorts of stuff in the baby food section that just scares me!  Additives, sugars, carbs – lots of carbs – non-organic (meaning pesticides and chemicals), etc.  And it’s making me wonder what’s going on.

What’s in that?  Take that now into the air that we breathe, the housing that we live in, the water that we drink, the containers that hold the water (piping, plastic bottles, etc.), the material possessions we purchase, the cleaning products we use, the transportation methods, the clothing we wear, the items in our home we sleep in, sit on, cook with…

What’s in that – television show, that comment made by my boss the other day, that action or inaction by my partner?  What’s in that – proposal by the government, the new legislation, the pandemic, and that vaccination they’re telling me I HAVE to have?

What’s in that?  One simple question, with life-changing answers.

Ask it today – ask it of everything.    Do it for yourself firstly.  Then, do it for others, and do it for the planet.

“When the children’s needs are tended to, then the world will change.”

As part of the foundational level of Divine Parenting, it is one’s first ‘job’ to parent the self.  In understanding the ‘parent’ role, one must understand who, or what, one is parenting.  It is in recognizing and understanding the ‘who’  (or the ‘what’) that will reveal the knowledge and the wisdom that is required to parent anything.

The first area I am guided to look at today around self-parenting is the Relationship to Self.

There are multiple areas of the Self that we have a relationship with.  Today’s focus is the Relationship with Thoughts and the Mental Mind. I focus on this firstly because it is my belief that our thoughts create everything else — the well being of our physical and emotional bodies, our connection to spirit (or not), and our experience in life.  Thoughts are the source of our relationships — without a thought about something or someone, we can’t create a relationship with it, or them.

When one also takes into consideration the first need that was brought through – that being Sanctuary — one can firstly examine whether or not they have Sanctuary within their own thoughts, within their own mind.  Spending a moment now with this…feel within yourself, and let’s look at a few of the areas our thoughts affect.

• Are your thoughts about your body positive, negative or neutral?
• Are your thoughts about your behavior positive, negative or neutral?
• Are your thoughts about your emotions, and the ways you express them, positive, negative or neutral?
• Are your thoughts about your experiences positive, negative or neutral?

I definitely believe in the Law of Attraction, as it has proven its’ existence to me daily.  And, if thoughts create our vibrational experience (as Abraham-Hicks so often reminds us), how can we shift our relationship with our thoughts, in order to be more harmonious to that which we want versus what we have, in all areas of our experience?

Ponder this Relationship with Thoughts and the Mental Mind.  See what comes clear for you when you do.

The concept of self-love and self-care seems, at first thought, to be pretty simplistic, and therefore, easy.  I agree, it is very simplistic — but I would posit that it is not very easy.

My own personal journey of self-love and self-care probably started when I was nearly 35 years old (I’m turning 50 next year).  Prior to that, I was very much a perfectionistic, approval-seeking, people-pleaser; a giver and sometimes even a martyr.  This behavior was not only modeled for me in my upbringing, from many sources, but encouraged — highly encouraged.

It took a few shake-ups in my world to lift me into the realization that this lifestyle, these choices, were not in anyone’s best interest — most of all, my own.  And in beginning anew, I’ve had a lot of interesting experiences, insights, and roller-coaster rides along the way.

I would start, and stop…and start, and stop.  And may I just say, that I’m in the starting position, yet again.  Even though my life is a million times better than it ever was before, my patterns are really difficult to break (for me) and I’m back in a low energy space (physically and etherically) with none of my clothes fitting (too small) and a big sugar addiction come back in full force.

Part of the beauty of birthing this concept is…I get to live it as I birth it.  I get to experience each of the elements of the concept firsthand, and I get to see what needs I am not getting met, and what to do about that.  It’s a beautiful process.  And I love it.

So, I move back into the simplicity of the self-love and self-care concept…understanding that clarity around my own behaviors is the first step to change.

I created this website last year…a year ago, actually.  Wow…how time flies!

The purpose of the site was to share the Self-Love and Self-Care elements coming through as part of the Divine Parenting initiative.  I find it so interesting that whatever I am working on, I am ‘living it’ as well.

The information on this site will be three-fold –

• personal sharings of my own journey around Self-love and Self-care
• resources and insights I have come across in my own ‘third dimensional’ research of this topic, and
• higher-vibrational messages and information that helps one connect to, and live from, their divine state as often as possible.

I’m excited to be able to assist in raising awareness around this foundational phase of the Divine Parenting initiative.

Love and light,

Sue

These words are embroidered on a t-shirt my beautiful daughter gifted me with.  Each and every time I wear the shirt, I get positive comments from people — mostly women.  When I wear the shirt, I feel different, even though I cannot see the words from my vantage point.  

Embracing our true self…fully embracing our whole, true self…is a journey that includes SELF-LOVE & SELF-CARE.  It cannot be otherwise.  

And when we embrace who we truly are, we set an example for others to follow.  They see that we can do it and it then inspires others.  

So my first posting on this website is to ask you to …  EMBRACE WHO YOU ARE, right in this moment.  For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health.  Connect to the person you are in this moment, and be in that awareness for as long as you can hold it.  Then, let us see where that takes us…

I honour your journey.

Love and light,

Sue